Wednesday, March 14, 2018


Life is going a million miles a minute.  I've been super successful with some of my March goals and not so much with know like the whole blogging once a week thing.

But my teeth are getting brushed more often than not.  And I'm reading more often.  And I'm trying to take the breaths when I wake up in the morning (after I hit snooze...for you HOUR!)

The one I'm faithfully doing is my line a day journal.  I really love it.  If nothing else I spend 2 mins each day reflecting on how things went.  For the most part the memories that come up quickly, the words I want to put in that tiny space, are good.  Which I think really says something about my life and how much I need to CHILL THE F OUT.  Although we all know I've never been good at that.

In that same vein - I finally scheduled a counseling appointment.  It's good because I feel the anxiety creeping around me these days. It really seems to come up with the whole not sleeping and having a million things on the to-do list situation.  And there are some things that I need some coaching on.  And really don't we all feel better when we can just vent to a confidential neutral source?!

On a completely different note, baby boy turned 9mos the other day!  He is a joy.  They both are really.  His big sister is full of sass and laughs and personality.  She is essentially over the potty training hump (praise the lord).  And we're looking into preschool for the fall (boo hoo - where did my baby go?!)
My house is a mess and I can't get anything done on time.  But we're (mostly) happy, (mostly) clean, and (mostly) I guess I can't complain too much.

More soon.  I hope.  No promises ;)

Thursday, March 1, 2018

March-ing On ;)

So my (ever evolving plan) is to make a few attainable goals on the 1st of each month, starting RIGHT NOW!  Because isn't now the best time to start?!

And to help keep myself accountable and to further show that we're all just getting by (aka I'm the conductor of the hot mess express...) I'm going to go ahead put them right here and just air all my dirty laundry (which with 2 a lot!)

March Goals:
  • Line a day Journal - just for fun
  • Make a counseling appointment - because life is stressful, and we all need tune ups, and because I need to start walking the walk
  • 3 deep breaths in the AM - I want the first thing I do in the morning to NOT be pick up my phone.  But instead just notice that I'm alive and well.
  • 5 mins of reading a day - because I'm reading a fabulous book.  And reading makes me happy.
  • 1 blog per week - because yeah...
  • Brush my teeth in the PM - Because we're being real here and sometimes I literally forget to brush my teeth...that's how my brain is right now...
Hope ya'll are well out there! 


PS: Unrelated photo of my children because...cute!


Sunday, December 31, 2017

Arrivederci 2017

Arrivederci 2017

2017 had a lot of darkness. But it had one brilliant bright spot. In June our sweet boy joined our family and we lit up and stretched and grew in so many ways. 

And while I wrote less than ever this year here is where we were in 2017:

I turned 31 and spent the day with my darling girl. I was past the 1st trimester and finally not feeling like death. I hit 20wks this month!

Our little girl turned 2! And suddenly was an enormous full sized kid. She continues to light up our lives with her laughter and smiles.

We took a babymoon to Catalina and it was amazing! Just me and SP getting pampered and hanging out in the beautiful sunshine! I also went to a work conference and had dinner in bed like a real pregnant lady. I hit the 3rd trimester and got diagnosed with gestational diabetes.

Just got bigger and bigger! Had the first Easter that baby girl sort of understood.

Got really really big.  Kept waiting for baby to come...not so much

Made it all the way to 40wks.  Which almost never happens with gestational diabetes.  Was induced on my due date - long story short, this kid did NOT want to come out.  Induction lasted 3 days/nights and ended in a c-section. (Birth story still to come I swear!)  On the 12th at 10pm this kiddo finally joined our family.  After 5 days in the NICU we all made it home!

This is 40wks to the day, right before leaving to be induced!

Just darkness and sleep deprivation.

More sleep deprivation. We also go down south to visit the parentals.  Babes first time in the ocean! We make it to the 2 month mark!

It is insanely hot where we live.  We go stay in a hotel and it's the best stay-cation ever!

Laughed for the first time on 9/1/17!

SP goes on a weekend away with her mom.  I survive a full weekend alone with both kids!  

I also go back to work and live to tell the tale.  It's a rough transition but it's good to be back.  And luckily it's a pretty good transition.  

I'm finally coming out of some pretty intense postpartum anxiety (again, another story that is coming).  We celebrate LB (little Boy's) 1st Halloween.  LG (little girl) is super into it once she realizes people are going to give her candy. She asked to be a dragon this year.  It was amazing and we obliged!

5 mos with LB!  He is a smile monster!  He loves his sister.  He loves to eat and is a chunky monkey.  We celebrate thanksgiving.  I remember that Thanksgiving 2016 I was finishing up some really painful shots in my rear end.  LB is totally worth it!

I decide to do Blogmas - I think it's mostly a success (?!) LG is in love with Christmas!  We go to my parents and it's fabulous how excited LG is about everything Christmas related.  In fact even today she asked if she could see santa.  And we're full circle!

So that was the year.  Basically a big blur - especially the last 6 mos.  And a lot of it was really really hard.  But there were clearly some beautiful moments as well.  So 2018 what will you have in store, that is the question. I've been racking my brain to try to figure out what I want to focus on this coming year and I've come up with a couple of things:

1) Showing up.  Putting my body, mind, and soul where my mouth is.  Along with my dollars and votes of course.  I need to start really calling my representatives and putting myself in protests that I believe in.  I have work to do in being the best ally I can be. And in general I just have a lot to learn even when its scary or sad or hard.  So I think the first step is to just keep showing up and sitting in all the discomfort and fear.

2) Saying no.  I've gotten into a bad habit again where I'm falling into the busy trap.  And where I neglect myself to please others. Some of it is out of necessity (I have kids that have to be taken care of and my needs have to be put aside) and some of it is just a bad case of people pleasing and guilt.  It's ok to say no.  So no no nooooooo! 

3) Be Brave!  It's time to get back to being brave.  To remember that being brave means being vulnerable.  Means being recklessly kind. It means showing up and also sometimes saying no.  It means doing things even when it's hard. It means finding the pieces of myself that seem to be buried. And letting go of things that aren't serving me. It means letting go of perfection and fear and embracing joy and gratitude.  Because just being happy and grateful makes everything enough. 

Much love my friends!  I know 2017 was rough on many (all?) of us personally, politically, professionally etc...  But I think that in 2018 we are going to dig out the good. We're going to love the crap out of each other.  We are going to be our bravest best selves.  We're going to be the heroes of our own lives - and in doing that we're going to give the world exactly what it needs.  

And we're going to be so dang happy.

Be brave my loves, be brave!

I love you!

Sunday, December 24, 2017

Blogmas 2017 - Vol. 24 (?)

In which I make no excuses 

Here's the thing - clearly I dropped the proverbial ball all over the place with blogmas this year. But at least it had its intended affect - I wrote things! Yay! 

The other thing is that I've just been too busy living the last couple of days to write. But here's the general run down.

Hang out with fam
Eat cookies
See Christmas lights
Eat cookies
Snuggle babies 
Eat cookies
Watch cookie shows
Eat cookies 
Wrap presents 
You get the idea...

It has been so nice to just sit in the sun and soak up some time with the kiddos and the parents and the brother/uncle.

And now we only have a few more days - so we will be spending it in a cookie induced coma I'm sure. 

And now a pictorial representation...

Merry Christmas Eve my friends! I hope you are spending it with folks you love - soaking up every minute!

Thursday, December 21, 2017

Blogmas 2017 - Vol.21

What I liked about today - the I'm tired blogmas edition

As the title says - I'm tired. So here, in no particular order, are some of the things I liked about today:

  • Grandkids getting loved on by awesome grandparents 
  • The joy my daughter gets from riding the smallest train in the history of mankind 
  • The fact that my mother and I did not get stuck in said train when riding with said daughter after having folded ourselves in half to fit
  • The fact that grandpa rescued the daughter from the so so scary carousel 
  • Sponge candy! Bought especially for me by the mama
  • That an old friend's mother said baby boy has my nose and profile :)
  • Hanging out with a fabulous old friend who gives the best hugs
  • The knowledge that SP comes tomorrow!
  • Whiskey and diet after the kids are in bed. And for the record the Costco whiskey is not half bad...
  • Coffee. Amen.
  • Big fat squishy babies 
  • Reading Christmas books from my childhood to my kiddos
  • The sunshine!!!
  • Watching holiday baking shows with mom

And that's a wrap for tonight! Hasty maƱana amigos!

Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Blogmas 2017 - Vol. 20

On Good Enough 

So clearly I dropped the proverbial ball for a couple days there... I thought about trying to make up the days but honestly these days I can only do what I can do.

Recently we sent out Christmas cards. I was lamenting to my mother that I couldn't get it together enough to write a letter this year. But I did get cards with pictures on them. And she said to me "good enough... our family motto" 

And it really is my motto lately! And you know what I think that's just fine. Little girl only ate fruit for dinner - good enough. Babies only got showered once this week - good enough. Only a few Christmas decorations up this year - good enough. 

The truth is everybody is still happy. My sweet kids love every little thing and don't know any different. I like everything more because I'm not stressing about every detail. 

Sometimes good enough really is good enough!

Ps - flew alone with the kiddos today. Little girl watched 2hrs of Mickey and ate a metric ton of gummy bears... good enough!

Sunday, December 17, 2017

Blogmas 2017 - Vol. 17

From Non-Belly to Belly Mama

It's so appropriate that 2 years ago I was writing about being a non-belly mama to my daughter...

My dream of becoming a belly mama has come true.  So now SP and I have been on both sides and what an amazing journey it's been. In some ways nothing has changed, in others everything has changed in the most amazing ways.

I'm still a non belly mama and I'm a belly mama.  

Mostly I'm just a mama.

Some people say they feel a difference with their biological kid.  I honestly don't.  I think maybe if somebody told me that I had some sort of amnesia and had actually carried my daughter as well I might believe them.  Nature and nurture are so weird.  Because sometimes my daughter is a carbon copy of my wife.  And sometimes I swear she somehow inherited my DNA through osmosis or something.  

But through it all I'm still over here wiping noses and butts.  I'm still over here kissing boo boo's and fixing broken toys.  I'm still making food they won't eat and doing laundry in an endless loop (it NEVER ends).  I'm still giving a million hugs and singing the same songs over and over and over. I'm still laughing at their crazy antics and melting at their sweetness. 

I think I always thought I would give birth to all of my children. And I really did.  One came from my belly and one came straight from my heart. 

Clearly the universe has unfolded exactly as it was meant to...